The drama between Cool FM OAP, Freeze & his supposedly ex-wife, Opeyemi Olarinde has been a hot topic on social media and dominated news headlines in the last few days. Freeze reportedly called Opeyemi out as a violent adulterous woman. She however denied the accusations saying he was only seeking public attention, and later on, the OAP responded with pictures showing him physically abused by his estranged wife.
Freeze has now spoken exclusively with SDK blog to further shed more light on the ongoing drama and set the records straight once and for all. He shared detailed information on how their marriage crashed, allegations on adultery, domestic abuse and more!
Here are excerpts from the interview:
On why he repeatedly called his estranged wife out on social media:
“I am not perfect, not even near, but I will not take blame for a crime I didn’t commit and won’t allow my name to be destroyed by this woman. Ope was raised by a single mother who had seven children from three different fathers. Everyone discouraged the relationship pointing out her mother’s situation and warning me that this might lead to a character flaw in Ope but what did I know?
I was in love. By the time I understood the enormity of the damage done to her by her upbringing, it was already too late and she was pregnant with our first child. I decided to get married to Ope turning a deaf ear to numerous warnings of the consequences of such an action.
From the first year of marriage I started seeing her true character. She talked without any respect whatsoever and would fight me and hurl curses like a market woman, while saying to me “it is better I curse you and hit you than for GOD to strike you!” My parents have been married for 40years and I believe that divorce should never be an option. So I endured the violence.
Adultery is one of the most difficult things to prove but if a married woman keeps late nights, has unwholesome friends, comes home tipsy regularly and she makes calls to strange men at ungodly hours within her husbands home eyebrows will definitely be raised. There was this one time I went to the UK for work. I sent my assistant with a cheque to my house at midnight and she wasn’t home, she had dropped the kids with my sister and disappeared into the night!
What about the time she saved a mans number under her female friends name sometime in 2007 and we had a huge fight about it, leading me to almost end the marriage at that time. It has never been my intention to call her out on social media and if you remember clearly I avoided making any comment initially since it’s an embarrassing situation for both of us and the children already, however she is hellbent on destroying everything I stand for just to make herself look good. This has left me with no other option than to speak the truth!”
On pictures showing Freeze’s bloodied face and allegations of domestic abuse:
“Ope beat me up black and blue. I have received beatings from someone who was supposed to be my better half and a weaker vessel for little or no provocation. I was once attacked physically while on the phone with one of my biggest clients and the client listened through the attack that left me badly injured.
Several of my friend have witnessed her attacks. She is a very jealous and possessive person and believes the best way to stop a man from cheating is to embarrass him before any potential threat.
She is also very insecure as a result of her upbringing and is suspicious of everyone and everything.”
On when and why their marriage crashed:
“My marriage crashed like 6 or 7 years ago. In her bid to have absolute control Ope severed ties with my family. She created such a hostile environment that my family avoided visiting as much as possible. In order for me to have a happy home I had to do as she pleased or else all hell would be let loose. I wasn’t the perfect husband myself making a few mistakes here and there but I always believed we could work on our issues if we stuck together.
The straw that finally broke the camels back for me was when she lashed out at my mother, attempting to slap her in the presence of my father and I because my mother dared question her coming home at 11.30pm leaving the children without dinner.
To me that was the highest form of insult a man could ever take and I felt I had failed my family if that was the best daughter-in-law I could provide for them. I still stayed on in the marriage for the sake of the kids but my heart and soul had departed.”
Waoh, so sad…